Here’s one thing I know:
However you are right now
It’s ok to feel what you’re feeling
It’s ok to grapple and be exhausted
It’s ok to stare out the window
It’s ok to swell with pride and light up with joy.
It is ok to rage and cry and laugh and sleep and have sex (or not) and yell and whoop and holler and sigh and giggle and grumble and wail and whisper and wonder and doubt and hope.
It’s all ok.
It is real.
It is you.
And it matters.
It is not meant to be positivity-ed away,
This is your real life
Meant to be felt
To the fullest.
Meant to break your heart down
And break your heart wide open
And break your heart into a million pieces.
So that you can look at each tiny piece and say
This is me.
This is who I am.
The vast industry of the forces of “You need to buy this now to prove your worth”
Will say you’re worthless
That you’re not ok.
The vast industry of patriarchy and power at the cost of another’s pain
Will say no.
Stop being the way you are.
Simply being with what is
And who you are
And how you feel
And what’s going on
That is an act of resistance.
An act of affirming your being,
Of claiming your place in our shared humanity.
Ok-ness is not a mask or a performance.
It’s not a stuffing away or down.
It’s not a clamming up or holding in.
It’s not numbing out or shutting down.
It’s not denying or hiding.
It simply is.
In the now of this moment,
Is where our creative resources are.
Who are you?
What do you stand for?
What do you choose?
What will you do?
The answers wait in the heart of your ok-ness,
the wellspring of your inherent worth.
You already belong.
You are ready.